When my husband and I went to ask our pastor for help, I secretly wished the ground would open up and swallow me whole. Nothing in me wanted to go for counselling. I did not want to tear down my perfect, flowery walls of marriage and show someone else that underneath was an ugly mess of conflict, arguments, and disagreements. We had barely been married a year, and I did not want people knowing that we already needed help.
Do you share similar feelings? You put on a pretty showing at church and special events, holding hands and smiling at each other, meanwhile behind closed doors you yell and scream at each other? People ask, “How’s married life?” and you respond with a cute bright smile, “It’s amazing!” meanwhile, you wondering what sort of conflict will arise tonight?
Though I may not know what it’s like in your current situation, I do understand what it’s like to be in a struggle and battle in your marriage. I know that aching and exhausted feeling of being at odds with your best friend. I understand the terrifying thought of letting down your walls and revealing the disorder.
So trust me on this: Asking for help and getting counsel is worth it.
Don’t believe me? Already have a list of arguments for me? Well so do I.
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