I was raised by one of those superhero moms. You know the type—the ones who had the clothing you went to school in washed the next day, always had supper ready on time, arrived early to both drop you off and pick you up, made the beds each day without a single wrinkle, and packed the perfectly balanced lunchbox. I am very grateful for the example my mother set for me as both a working woman and a diligent housewife.
When I got married and we decided I would be a stay-at-home housewife, I set the same standards for my household that my mother had in ours. I mean, why couldn’t I have the same perfect household as her without children and not working? Besides, tidiness and organization almost seemed to come naturally to me.
About a year and a half into our marriage, my husband and I began a new chapter in our lives with our first pregnancy. Before I became pregnant, I already made a commitment to myself and my husband that I would not let my housework fall apart simply because we had children. I was going to keep my same high standards no matter what.
For those of you who have struggled with morning sickness, you may be laughing at this already. Morning sickness soon hit me, and I was out. My housework fell to the wayside as all I wanted to do–or felt like doing–was laying on the couch and sleeping the entire afternoon.
With this came shame. I was ashamed of how dusty my floors had become and how much the laundry piled up. I cried to my husband in countless apologies for my lack of discipline.
Tired and exhausted momma, can you relate to what I experienced? First time pregnant wife, do you know the struggle of perfectionism and tiredness? It doesn’t need to stay this way. I want to offer you true change and hope from the Bible that I had to work through in those early months of pregnancy as a housewife.
You can read this article on Young Wives.