Friend, you are meant to be a theologian.
Our theology shapes every aspect of our lives as believers. How can we love and serve God if we do not know him? How can we live a gospel-centered life if we do not know this gospel we were saved by? With biblical counselling, I help women like you put their theology into practice—in the mundane, the rugged terrain, and joyful moments.
Most people want peace. We want to be in harmony in our relationships, we want our lives to run like a peaceful river, we want times of quiet and serene rest, and we want peace from anxiety. But in a sin-corrupted world, filled with thorns and thistles, peace can seem elusive or impossible. And yet, the Bible proclaims that as believers we can have peace. We know perfect peace will exist in heaven, but how do we gain such peace on earth?
Perhaps you have been with us through our entire series of Restoring Peace From Anxiety, yet you still feel anxious. You have followed and applied what God’s Word says about anxiety in Philippians 4:4-8, yet you still feel anxious each day. There is one more verse for you friend. “The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you” (Philippians 4:9 NASB).
But God has a higher calling for us. He doesn’t want us to remain in those depressing, anxious thoughts. He calls us to lift our thoughts to higher things. “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things” (Philippians 4:8 ESV).
When anxiety peaks, the last thing on your mind is probably prayer. Rather than stopping to pray about the worries that flood our minds, we flit around like an anxious bird, trying to keep our situation under our control even though we know it is spinning too quickly for us to keep up.
And yet, Paul says that biblical prayer is the solution to our anxiety. He says that when we choose to pray rather than worry, we will be filled and guarded by the peace of God.
I don’t think that break is going to work the miracle of change in your flustered life that you are hoping for. Even though if you take that break, or go on that vacation, or have that self-care day, when you return your life is still going to be the same. There will still be messes to clean. There will still be faulty alarms. Things will happen to irritate us. And the anxiety will still rampage when it all happens.
What we need is not a break, but a heart change. We need to cultivate a gentle spirit.
Worries weigh us down. It makes sense that depression and anxiety often go hand-in-hand; when we are overwhelmed with concerns, fears, and anxieties, it’s difficult to find any reason to be happy or joyful. Instead, we feel burdened by worry, like it’s a heavy weight we drag behind us each day.
Thankfully, joy is not a flippant emotion like happiness, based on circumstance or bubbly feelings. Joy is a choice, based on the most secure foundation we could ever have. Our job is to make that choice to replace our fears with rejoicing.
Shortly after I became a believer, I still lived by my feelings rather than my faith. I doubted my salvation because it didn’t feel real. I struggled to believe that God still loved me when I sinned because I couldn’t feel his love. I often gave into my sins because it felt better than obedience. My worship time was completely regulated by my feelings as well—if I felt near to God, then I had worshipped effectively and rightly.
Do you live by your feelings? Do you live in a similar way that I did? If so, we need to consider what God’s Word has to say about our feelings, and what living by faith actually looks like.
Looking back as a married woman, I see where I went wrong. The motive I took going into the battle for purity was the same motive that lead me to sin: Selfishness. But even before that, my view of purity was wrong, and that hindered my battle as well.
Maybe you are like me and felt (or feel) totally equipped to fight temptation against sexual immorality. I encourage you to consider with me your definition of what true purity looks like, and to also consider what is truly motivating you in your battle against sexual sin.
She said that pride proceeds a fall, and likewise God will humble you when you begin to think you have learned the art of humility.
Whether you think you are already a pretty humble person, or you think you need lots of growth in the area of humility, here are six characteristics of a humble woman of God.
But seasons of difficulty are much different. In seasons of suffering, sadness, anxiety, and weakness, obedience does not come so naturally. When I am filled with anxiety, all I want to do is lie in bed and dwell on my worries, flip through the what ifs, and argue against rational thinking. I want to scroll through Facebook posts and get lost in Instagram stories, forgetting my difficulty.
And yet, my God-given purpose to glorify him has not changed in those seasons of rampant anxiety. Even in those moments, God is calling me to be a mirror that is reflecting him and his gospel.
I am a woman saved by the grace of God, a wife, a mother, a writer, and a biblical counselor in training. My desire is to teach women like you to turn to God’s Word in the midst of your daily life and suffering to find the answers you need. I want to show you how to love God with your mind and heart, just as Christ has taught me.
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