Grace for the Pregnant Housewife

Grace for the Pregnant Housewife

Though my husband never seemed bothered, I cried and apologized daily for the messy floors and my excess sleep. I knew I needed rest, but the amount I was getting overwhelmed me. I wanted to force myself into my old routines, but my body wouldn’t allow it. My husband would try to pick up the slack, but that only made me more sad and frustrated.  

Tired and exhausted momma, can you relate to what I experienced? First time pregnant wife, do you know the struggle of perfectionism and tiredness? It doesn’t need to stay this way. I want to offer you true change and hope from the Bible that I had to work through in those early months of pregnancy as a housewife.

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The Anxiety of Social Media

The Anxiety of Social Media

In a perfect world, social media would be a place of smiles as we connect with friends and share memories. But we don’t live in a perfect world—we live in a world tangled in the thorns and thistles of sin. And in this world, social media can be a place where anxiety flourishes through comparison, knowledge of the turmoil and terror that surrounds us, envy as we worry why God hasn’t given us what he has given someone else, and anxiously checking stats and “like” counts.

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How to Assure Our Hearts When We Doubt

How to Assure Our Hearts When We Doubt

“Doubt” is the perfect word to character my young, Christian faith. Before I was saved, I lived as a false convert, continually haunted by doubts of my salvation—which in turn led me to striveto keep my favoredstanding before God with works. When I became a Christian and recognized that salvation is by faith alone because of God’s grace, I still struggled with doubt. My legalistic ways were difficult to let go of. I doubted that God could truly love a wretch like me, and could continue to love me despite my sin.

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What's Wrong with Self-Condemnation?

What's Wrong with Self-Condemnation?

You take a slow sip of your coffee and close your eyes to hide the tears that threaten to slide down your cheeks. You already prayed about each of these today, asking for God’s forgiveness, but that doesn’t silence the voices. A heavy sadness lays on your chest; the sense of guilt remains.

And so you listen to condemnation the rest of the night, even as you rest your head on your pillow, until you fall asleep.

How do I know this story so well? Because I’ve lived it. If this is your story as well, I want to help you find joy again, and freedom from this self-condemnation. But first, we need to understand why it’s wrong. 

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The True Colours of Perfectionism

The True Colours of Perfectionism

Maybe this sounds ridiculous to you, but if you are perfectionist like me, I know you have your own version of dusty floors. Maybe it took you far too long to write an article this week because you kept backspacing the entire time. Maybe you procrastinated your next deadline because you’re too scared to start a project, knowing it won’t be perfect. Maybe you refused to go skating with your friends because you knew you’d look silly and wouldn’t do it to perfection. Maybe you worried more about your party decorations than enjoying the party itself. 

If so, you may be a perfectionist like me. And if you are, I want you to consider with me: Is perfectionism perhaps your greatest weakness? Could it be the leading cause of your anxiety?

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Hope for Perfectionist in Progressive Sanctification

Hope for Perfectionist in Progressive Sanctification

Perfectionism paints a pretty, promising picture for us of the picture perfect life. It tells us if we hold to the standard of perfection, then our lives will be perfect. Our hearts will be at rest and our minds will be at peace. In reality, perfectionism leaves us exhausted, frustrated, anxious, and hopeless.

Friend, let me tell you the better standard Scripture sets. Let me show you how believing the theology I preached and studied totally changed my anxious, angry, perfectionistic heart.

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